LIVE IN THE MOMENT!

Life is not a bed of roses, and it has never been one.Yes! this is the ultimate truth of life,a ground reality that is resolute and something that just cannot be changed.Life has many shades and colors,some are dull while others bright. Happy are those people,who go through ALL these shades of life ,with a bright smile on their faces,knowing that every bad or good day shall pass.MANY of us go through life half defeated,thinking that everything negative happens only to us.But what we,most importantly fail to realize is that, when we think negatively we tend to attract and draw negative results ,leading to self destruction.

DON'T WAIT FOR TOMORROW!

A lot many of us live our TODAY unhappily and grumbling, and thinking that tomorrow will be much better than today.We look at the bundle of problems and worries at hand,and unfortunately tend to disregard the big basket of what we have with us TODAY!.Time flies, its never the same,when we wait for tomorrow,what we fail yo realize is that what we have today may never be there tomorrow!We as humans,fail to realize the beauty that the TODAY holds! The weather that is TODAY,will never be the same tomorrow. The flowers that have bloomed today will not bloom the same tomorrow.Then why don't we concentrate on what we have in hand today?

CHANGE .. IS THE ONLY CONSTANT

"Change is the only constant."We hear of this a lot many times.But, do we really follow it? A lot many of our insecurities, emerge from the feeling of being frightened as to what will happen in the future?.but many a times  we are petrified from taking a new step or trying something that we have not done earlier,a feeling of an unknown fear takes us in its grip.At that time,we fail to realise that by saying 'NO' to an opportunity,only because we are uncertain about what the result may be,we in this process tend to choke and suppress our own GROWTH.

Change is inevitable!

Change is a ground reality!It cannot be avoided.We constantly see change all around us.The weather changes every day, the sun sets and rises but yet everyday is different from the previous.The nature also follows change but yet we try our best to avoid it.Change can range from the smallest to the biggest of change,but what remains constant during this process,is that every single change gives us room for development and growth.But change,however does not take place until and unless we welcome and embrace it!

 There is no growth in COMFORT ZONES !

'Comfort zones are beautiful places,but nothing grows there!'.You may be comfortable the way life goes on,and you may also try to avoid change,but there is no room for development in these comfort zones.You may be reluctant to take that one decision,but you may never know when that one decision may turn into a boon and give you the life you deserve.

Sometimes,life is about that one decision we take that can change our life forever.And always remember,that you are just one step away from a better life.No chances taken leads to nothing gained.

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LEAVE YOUR FEARS BEHIND!

Fear is dominant in most of us.We fear various things.Some may have fear of confined places,while others may fear water.Fear is normal,but at times,if overdone it can be destructive.Fear is present in all of us.But, we do not need to fear things if we have faith in ourselves.Fear can be destructive,but at the same time,if you master the skill to gain full control over it,then NOTHING can stop you. In order to do this successfully,we first need to understand and have knowledge about the things that we tend to fear or the source from where our fears originate.

WHY TO FEAR?

Some fears may originate from bad experiences that a person has had in the past.As a result of which the same fear of the bad experience repeating itself in a disguised form is present in our subconsciousness,that tends to haunt us.Some of us tend to have an unknown fear of things that are not in our control.Many of us,fear CHANGE.Moving to a new place,starting a new job or trying something new,tends to make us feel apprehensive and hence we develop a fear.But,what we fail to realize is that,CHANGE is the only thing that is constant in this world,and a person who does not accept and adapts to change remains at the same level from where he/she had begun and does not GROW.Hence change is inevitable,and what cannot be avoided has to be faced!Our mind is wild,but if given the right training,it can do wonders.You train your mind to be anxious about a particular situation and trust me you will develop obstacles and fears that had NEVER at all EXISTED!and this can certainly be harmful if not damaging.

TRAIN YOUR MIND TO TACKLE FEAR
When you try your hand at something new,you are never PERFECT at it the first time.But of course eventually and gradually,with proper practice and perseverance you master it.Similarly,when you train your mind,so that it can help you overcome your fears,you will fail at it a lot many times,but remember,you will be a pro at it some day or the other.If not tomorrow then day after but you will succeed.Tell your mind,that you have what it takes to stand up to circumstances,you have the ability to stand up and tackle any situation with courage and confidence,and you will actually see the wonders that this regular conditioning of your mind will do for you.

FACE YOUR FEARS!
Face your fears. Do the things that you fear.Fears are sometimes,just mere illusions that your mind tends to create and are most of the time just utter reasons for not doing a certain thing.But when your mind gives you amazing(but false)reasons for not doing something,there will always be a voice coming from your heart that will tell you that these are mere excuses.Listen to your heart, go and face your fears,cause that's the only way to conquer your fears,that earlier held you in it's grip and break free from it,and to RISE ABOVE AND ACHIEVE ANYTHING.

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DREAMS.... KEEP YOU GOING

"DREAMS make us who we are."If you have the courage,perseverance,determination and if you put  your 100% into something,giving all you have and not holding anything back,your dreams,no matter what can and definitely will come true. Today's blog is about DREAMS as you must have already guessed.Dreams have a driving force in them,something that makes life worth living. A person with a DREAM(big or small) will have a motive to live for. He/she will dream and his/her entire energy will be directed towards attaining that one, GOAL.

However, DREAMS just remain ordinary dreams,if we do not do something to pursue them. A person may have many dreams, but without hard work and perseverance,attaining this goal can be difficult and impossible.Sustainable action is hence very vital.Put in your entire effort into making your dreams turn into reality, work hard, know and tell yourself that you can do it. Believe in your dreams and believe in yourself continuously and lo! there you have the formula to attain success and realize your dreams.

KEEP DREAMING!

When one goal is attained,set for yourself another goal,and why not? We are not meant to live and be mediocre. We are meant to rise above and be better than ourselves.SELF BELIEF and HARD WORK combined together can make any person realize his dreams.Many a times, people tend to give up on a dream,by just listening to what the society has to tell them and just one word of discouragement is more than enough to put them OFF. But unfortunately,what they fail to realize is that,a person who has fulfilled his dreams,is not the one who listened to what the others told him,but the one who did what his HEART told him to go for!

DON'T EVER GIVE UP!

Dreams often remain incomplete,if there are hurdles or obstacles on the path that leads you to your dreams as a person tends to quit in the face of adversities.There will be obstacles,you will face difficulties,but just remember that"WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH,THE TOUGH GET GOING". Difficulties are a part and parcel of life.And trust me.it's the way you approach a problem that determines how you solve it.Approach  a difficulty with a negative mindset, and it becomes all the more difficult to solve,while on the contrary approach it with a positive attitude and the victory will be yours.Some people give up on their dreams when the first blow of troubles hits them,while others keep trying but unfortunately on the path of their dreams they become weary and fold up. Later realizing,that if they had tried a bit longer then their destination was just a step away. A person who moves forward in the storms and rains,has a beautiful paradise waiting for him.Move forward,plunge into difficulties with faith and self belief and don't ever STOP!Cause you may never know,when you have neared your destination.

HAPPINESS.. IN SMALL THINGS

Happiness is very essential and is an integral part of our being. By just being happy can work WONDERS , as it not only helps in reducing stress levels(which is widespread in today's world) but also plays a key role in keeping your immune system under check.Hence remaining HAPPY ,although not possible all the time, but we can all can try to remain happy most of the time.A happy person can easily combat any problem, with sheer determination and positiveness. 

SECRET TO HAPPINESS

While most people tend to find Happiness, or search for it in someone else or tend to derive it from people or material things, let me tell you that HAPPINESS , most of the time lies, obscure within ourselves, waiting to be discovered . If you depend on others for your share of happiness, it may be transitory and hence once gone ,it can leave you empty and thus can leave you again on a hunt for happiness.

I believe sometimes, being happy for the smallest of the small reasons, gives joy. Just enjoying the little things in life, and being happy about them is the real secret, which only few people tend to discern. Happiness is when you realize, that no one can actually determine how you feel or even that no one has a right to regulate your happiness.

SMALL THINGS ARE BIG REASONS FOR HAPPINESS

"Start from small". This saying applies and fits perfectly for being happy and finding happiness in small things.For example, the night stars or the aroma that the dark night bestows upon you, can make you feel fresh and refresh you. The morning breeze, the mild sun rays that fall on you (which I personally love) can be another example of small things in which happiness lies.For pet lovers(especially dogs) just spending time with your pets or just patting them can really be calming.Finding happiness, can also be to just meditate in the open, and listen to the soft but soothing sounds of birds and breeze likewise.Spending time (quality time ) with your loved ones is often seen as a way to attain relaxation.In what you find HAPPINESS is up to you, but remember, if you choose to be happy, you can find HAPPINESS even in the smallest things.SO ALWAYS CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.

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LOVE YOURSELF!

Some decisions in life are difficult to make, and especially when there is a point from where you do not know where, how and when to proceed.When such a point in life arises ,all you need to do is just calm down your mind and think, and by thinking i mean, real thinking.  At times we make mistakes, the worst of all, and tend to think and ponder over them again and again. We think as to "why i did this?" or "why did i make such a silly mistake?".Well ,i understand that dealing with mistakes and overcoming it's impact and effect is NOT easy! But , as i have told you in my earlier blog(https://sanaidafernandes.blogspot.com/2019/03/life-is-about-learning-from-mistakes.html) mistakes,should be and in fact, are an essential part of growing up. Now, it's not that you can be a pro at once ,in forgetting things and going forward. It takes time, especially if you have had the habit for long.Remember, when you make a mistake, the prime thing to do is to first ACCEPT ,ADMIT and be totally honest to yourself and tell yourself that it's OKAY!!This ill be your first step towards attaining self confidence.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

You are made to win.A person who has undergone a tough experience in life will always stand more CONFIDENT and above all will learn to BELIEVE in him/her self. Confidence doesn't come easily, especially when you have had feelings of inferiority and self doubt all your life! In math, for example there is a method called the TRIAL AND ERROR method. For those who may wonder what it is, it is a method where you keep trying to solve a problem by trying and of course ,sometimes failing, but yet trying again and again.One should use this method to attain confidence unless it comes naturally.Confidence can be seen as a counterpart of SELF BELIEF.Believing in yourself is very ,very,very(i have said"very" thrice as it is that important.)essential and can be seen as a stepping stone to success.BELIEVE , that you can achieve anything cause we are made (each one of us) to be extraordinary and not MEDIOCRE.

LOVE YOURSELF

We all are different and each one of us has various talents but the real task is to ACCEPT yourself the way you are. This includes all your strengths , your weaknesses and your flaws. We are not meant to be perfect, but we are meant to contribute to this world by being ourselves. Love yourself and people around you will automatically see the beauty that you hold. You can also transmit the positive vibes to the people around you. Loving yourself and confidently presenting yourself (the way you are) to the world , is your first step towards success , prosperity and confidence .

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WOMEN EMPOWERMENT

‘There is no tool for development more effective than women empowerment’ .I  guess this very term(women empowerment) is used so often that it has become more of a cliche. Women empowerment is something that the whole world today is concentrating on.  Have you ever thought  about why do we emphasize or talk about empowering women or why do we celebrate women’s day? Don’t you think that this day wouldn’t have come into existence if women were empowered? Its really heart wrenching to see the atrocities against women that don’t seize to stop.. In the 21^st century where we are becoming technologically so advanced where humanoids are being developed, women are still not safe. It’s a shame for us! The number of rapes, female infanticides , domestic violence are increasing day by day. This really , makes us think whether we are developing ? we are moving forward but crimes against women are also on the rise!we have reached to an extent where we are beginning to stereotype colors as pink being for girls and blue for boys and moreover why are rules made for only women ?

The real definition of  Women empowerment is not just about asking for equal rights but to make women empowered economically, socially and education wise. Education is he most powerful weapon and I think if all girls are educated we may be able to successfully eradicate illiteracy from the world because when we educate a women we tend to educate the future generations as well. Being educated will make women economically strong.

That day I was watching a particular  Indian t.v serial and suddenly there was this scene where the girl gets caught by some goons and guess who saves her?  A male character of the show. So that time a thought crossed my mind. Why do we need someone to protect us all the time? Imagine giving self defense coaching to every women and empowering them to protect themselves wouldn’t that be just great? This in the real sense will be empowerment.

According to me empowering women in the true sense will be when all these stereotypes are demolished and a society is built where in women and men together hand in hand help to break this barrier of social inequality.a society where not just women but men as well contribute their parts for empowering women . A society where sexism is no longer existent. If this takes place dear friends then we will have women empowerment in the true sense! 

SOCIAL MEDIA... good or bad?

"Social media should be used to connect and not impress" . A quote rightly said and very much applicable to today's youth.Today social media has come to occupy a strategic position in our lives.Today, with this growing trend, especially among youth, social media is describes as a two sided weapon.

IT'S GOOD USES

Everything has a good and a bad side,but largely it depends on how YOU make use of it.Social media helps us largely to keep in touch with our dear old friends as well as make new ones.It keeps us 'up-to-date' with everything that is happening around us! It helps us chat , send messages, video call , share pictures and documents, instantly, just on the click of a button.Largely, social media has indeed made our lives much more easier , given the type of connectivity!

BAD IMPACTS

Due to social media , youth have today found this platform to substitute their family and friends , likewise.  Social media has indeed led to an upsurge in the number of cyber crimes, that just do not seize to stop! As a result of social media , today's youth have fallen prey to cyber bullying and most people today find it more comfortable to interact or express themselves on social media ,as a consequence of which, there seem to be a depreciation in the amount of 'actual' social relations in society. A number of deaths have taken place due to various social media games and challenges that have put the life of today's youngsters at a grave risk(e.g. blue whale etc) 

LIFE IS ABOUT LEARNING FROM MISTAKES!

WELL... life at most of the times can be draining . We tend to feel that life is being unfair to us. BUT! do you know that most of the bad things(so called 'bad things') happen to us due to our negative attitude towards life? Yes! life is what you make of it! well.. you must have heard this a 1000 times.But it's absolutely true. if you have a positive outlook towards life ,then anything and everything is possible.All we need in life to be successful is just a little HOPE and SELF-BELIEF in ourselves.I heard a beautiful quote that says,"Don't take yourself seriously, but believe in yourself completely!and that's so true. We all are humans and hence making mistakes is as natural as breathing oxygen!But a person who does not learn from them ,remains stagnated in the same place.Every mistake has something to teach us, but only if we are ready to learn from them. If you have done something crazy, or have made a mistake, just let it GO! A person learns from his/her mistakes so committing one is important to ensure ones growth.So, commit new mistakes every single day, as the more you make mistakes the more you can LEARN from them.So do not be afraid to to it!

LIFE ... is BEAUTIFUL and SUICIDE is NEVER an option!

LIFE is the most precious gift that each one of us has been blessed with.Sometimes we tend to think that no one understands us or how difficult life is and ultimately tend to become weary. BUT! remember no matter how many problems you are encountered with, no matter how deep and disturbing they may be , there is always a solution. The main aim as to why problems come our way, is to help us make better choices and give us the wisdom of experience. Life is NEVER a bed of roses but definitely can be at least better, if we embrace life and accept our share of problems and learn to deal with them effectively.Do you know that the only person who does not have problems stays in a grave? and has been in a long sleep?

WHY do people feel ENDING their lives is better?

Many people who tend to think this way, are often the ones who are going through TOUGH phases of life. If a problem, for some reason, they feel is overwhelming, then this option " OF COMMITTING THE MOST HEINOUS CRIME" takes them into their grip. Of course i may never know what you are going through, but definitely, I do know this much that you are a person make in GOD's likeness and hence you are strong! I am not a philosopher , but i believe that each one of us has the capacity INBUILT in each one of us to deal with circumstances as they rise.

THEY NEED YOUR HELP

Every person who is suffering from these kind of suicidal thoughts are in need of help. They are NOT weak, but just have lost hope and belief in themselves and in life. It is moral responsibility to lend a helping hand to such people. By just giving a word of encouragement can indeed go a very long way.So next time , you see a person depressed, unhappy, lost in deep thoughts or a person who does not show the kind of excitement that he/she showed before, give them a shoulder to cry and a hand to raise them up, for PRECAUTION IS BETTER THAN CURE! 

EAT HEALTHY ... REMAIN FIT!

WHAT is eating healthy?
Health is wealth. This well said quote is still applicable in this technologically advanced and fast moving world. Today in a world where we tend to neglect ourselves, health is a vital part.Health comes largely from what we eat and how we try to remain fit.
Why is BALANCED DIET IMPORTANT?
Eating a balanced proportion of a meal is extremely necessary. A balanced diet contain all the nutrients that a a healthy body requires. Example having proteins, vitamins, minerals,and carbohydrates in a balanced ratio is vital. But care has to be taken that, these nutrients should not overdo their proportion, after all anything over done is bad! A best example of a balanced diet is an INDIAN meal that consists of all of the above mentioned nutrients just in its proper quantity! Surprising right? yet, its true.

 

KEEP your body hydrated ALWAYS!

Did you know liquids , especially Water constitutes almost 75%  of our body?, And hence keeing yourself hydrated becomes a priority. It is always recommended to have at least 8 glasses of water per day. But given the kind of pollution and the rising temperatures, it is advisable  to have as much as fluids as possible.Example having juices (NOT beverages or tetra packs)made at home like beetroot juice , banana milkshakes,etc . can provide you with the necessary dose of vitamins and minerals.

WORK OUT!
Working out regularly is extremely important. Not only does it keep you in shape but it also keeps you fitter in the long run. ANY kind of exercise even a 15 minutes walk is said to do great towards your body! So whether it is walking, cycling or playing sports it is great and can work wonders!

FUN FACTS!!

• DO you know that BRIGHT coloured fruits and vegetables are an immense source of nutrients?
• DID you know that leafy vegetables are the healthiest?

TRAVEL more.... WORRY less

Traveling has often been seen as a mood booster. It can get down your stress levels... so why delay? Go pack your bags and choose a destination that excites you ! traveling to far of places, especially that guarantees you of relaxation is good and can do wonders for your health.While beaches provide you with a sense of calmness , mountainous places can be really SERENE! While travelling can be really hectic for others.. it can be at the same time exciting for some others! While it depends largely on what are your expectations from a travel, as some enjoy travelling as they love to observe and experience the cultures of the world, and still others love it for the sense of relief that they get from a hectic schedule .So whether or not you are a travel ENTHUSIAST , its always good to travel and see what this beautiful world has in hold JUST for you!💗💗💗💗

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